A woman’s friend is so demanding that she feels as if she’s on the verge of a breakdown, and she asked for advice on how to handle the rather awkward situation
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Part of being a friend is helping them out when they need a favour and offering emotional support when they’re going through a tough time.
But a friendship is a two-way process and you both need to be there for each other, or else it can feel like you’re being exploited.
One woman found just that when her “close friend” started asking too many favours. She took to Mumsnet to ask for advice as she didn’t know how to resolve the situation.
She explained: “Close friends for a very long time. Over the years she has asked many favours of me but it’s now getting too much.
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“She knows I can’t/won’t say no to her. I’m a people pleaser, but don’t want to be. I just don’t have the balls to say no.
“I can’t list the favours as it’s too outting. She’s pushing me to a breakdown. The latest favour requests from her are taking me over the edge and forcing me to cancel my day off work.
“I had nothing planned but that’s not the point. I don’t know how I manage this situation.”
People were quick to offer her advice. One comment read: “You manage it by saying no. You don’t have to give a reason why, just no, not possible.”
Another added: “There’s only one choice if you want the situation to change – you have to say no. That’s stark but that’s all there is to it.”
A third advised: “If you can’t say no to her, message her instead. It doesn’t have to be a long message or anything complicated. Just something along the lines of “regarding the favours you asked for earlier, sorry I can’t do it.”
Another comment read: “You know she’s wrong – you’re posting on here. But there’s only one person that can do anything about this – you. You know you’ve got to say no. And be proud of yourself when you do. Find something else to do that day – give yourself a reason to say no.”
“What’s the worst that would happen if you say no? If it’s the end of the friendship then surely it’s worth it over someone who has no consideration for you,” advised another.