An unnamed young woman claims to have found herself in the middle of a sticky situation after turning down an invite to her cousin’s baby shower over gifts.
The woman, who is a university student, has taken to Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum to share her story and ask fellow users if she was in the wrong for her decision.
In her post, she explains that her cousin, who she isn’t very close with, is expecting her second child and has invited her to the baby shower.
Along with the invite, she added a gift registry for guests to sign off on, but the woman claims it was full of expensive items, with many of the gifts meant for her cousin and not the baby and the cheapest item on the list being a stuffed animal priced at $25 (around £17).
She went on to share in her post how she doesn’t have much money but loves to sew and often makes baby blankets as gifts for her friends and family.
She had previously made the cousin’s first child a baby blanket and the little boy appeared attached to it, carrying it around whenever she visited.
However, when she offered to make something similar for the new child, her cousin was less than impressed.
She said: “I texted my cousin and let her know that I could not really afford some of the items she asked for, but I would be more than happy to make a personalized baby blanket to match the nursery.
“I got a text back immediately from her saying that I had to pick something from the registry or purchase a gift card from Babies ‘R’ Us with a minimum amount of $100 (around £70).
“I asked if there was an issue with her son’s blanket that would warrant her refusal of accepting my gift and she stated that because it was homemade it looked ‘tacky’ and it made her look cheap for not having a tag attached to it.”
The woman then told her cousin that she would not be buying anything from the registry and that she now also didn’t want to make her a blanket.
“[Cousin] became upset stating that I was a cheapskate and was depriving her unborn baby of needed supplies. I pointed out that she still had plenty of toys, books, old clothes, strollers, etc. from her first child that she could still use. She went quiet for a few days and then messaged me this morning saying she’ll take the blanket. I am still p***ed, so I told her no and I will no longer be attending her shower. Now I have cousins and aunts flooding my phone with complaints on how I am a bad person. My parents are on my side, however.”
One said: “That’s a baby shower you can skip without guilt. I don’t know many people who can drop $100 on a present. And it’s a shower…not a VIP lounge. Heaven forbid she has a 3rd child! The prices will be minimum $300.”
Another replied: “I’m just dying over the ‘it looks homemade and tacky cause it doesn’t have a tag.’ Has this woman never seen Etsy? Handmade is the height of sophistication.”
A third added: “Not The A**hole, on many levels. Let’s list the ways she’s an a**hole. She insulted your first gift. She is having a second shower at all (especially if she has stuff from her first kid). It’s not an actual shower (even a zoom event); it’s a gift grab. She reminded you to buy her something, not RSVP, not bring napkins or soda, not give a zoom link or directions. Her registry has no reasonable items. (People who do that get bottles or puffy books from me with $10 max budget). She gave a minimum spending limit at all. That limit was ridiculous. She turned you down and then set her family on you.”
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