Agony aunt Coleen Nolan advises a reader who says ‘can’t be bothered’ and has no interest in sex. She says her husband never pushes it, but she knows in her heart that it’s not right
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I’m a woman in my thirties with a husband and a two-year-old daughter, and I’m just not interested in sex any more.
I literally can’t be bothered with it, but I’ve only been married for five years.
My husband never pushes it, but I imagine his patience is wearing thin and at this point we may as well just be housemates.
I know in my heart it’s not right and things will come to a head at some point, but I’m just avoiding the whole subject at all costs.
Can you help in any way?
What advice would you give to this reader? Have your say in the comment section
I think it’s important to work out why sex has slipped so far down your agenda. Is it simply because you’re juggling a lot with a small child, work and so on, or is there something fundamentally wrong in your relationship?
Avoiding the subject really isn’t an option, but I’m sure you know that. The truth is, the longer this goes on, the harder it’ll be to get your sex life back on track (if that’s what you want). You’ll drift further apart from your husband and he’ll start to resent you.
This could just be a bump in the road – no marriage is great all of the time – so I think it’s important to see if you can work it out before giving up. Talk to your husband and ask him how he feels.
It might also be worth seeing your GP to find out if there could be a physical reason for your lack of libido.